The Gramma Sutra went to a swap this weekend. A clothing swap is a party where you bring clothes from your closet and take home clothes from someone else’s closet. This particular swap, Sisters who Swap, was in New Orleans and in between the sips of champagne, the stripping, and the trying on of clothes a grand time was had by all.
There were women of all ages, sizes and body types. If you can remember the trauma of changing in the girls locker room in high school or changing at your gym, or taking your clothes off in the doctor’s office then you will understand how some women felt about changing in front of other women. I’m too fill in the blank, fat, lumpy, old, hairy, short, tall, busty, flat chested, whatever you like. Let’s face it; a disproportionate amount of our time as women is spent being ashamed of what we look like. As we age we become the lovers of our past perfect bodies and the haters of our present aging bodies.
So you’d think, given this issue with our bodies that no one in their right mind would be taking their clothes off in front of other women, especially other women that are strangers.
You’d be wrong.
Last Saturday in the Garden District in New Orleans, women shucked their clothing with abandon to try on beautiful free garments. They bared bottoms and breasts; they stood nearly naked with other women and had a great time. Each time a woman put on something that fit, all the women nearby would clap and hoot and holler in encouragement. If a swapper tried on something not so fabulous, she was discouraged with the words “Honey, that’s not gorgeous enough for you” or something to that effect. Everyone came to the Swap in a good mood, but they left in a great mood.
I overheard a woman who was probably a size 2 tell a woman who was a size 14 that she would kill to have her curves. Women complimented each other, helped each other, and supported each other. You don’t need to be Harry Potter or Bella from Twilight to have some magic in your life; you just need a good group of women, a lot of laughter and some free clothes!